So why not have that as our "please adopt this definition" definition?
Well, if there's more than two genders and some people are no gender, or multiple then it's entirely possible to be attracted to more than one gender that isn't like your own, and not fancy your own at all.
In other words: bisexuality isn't an attempt to pigeonhole gender, it's the freedom to feel attraction without blinkers!
But we agree that 'both' is an oddly limiting word for the category of "everyone else" - this is why we say "more than one gender" at the Bisexual Index.
It's also true that a lot of the list that follows is "Bisexuals aren't..." and some people have asked us "why can't you be more positive and say all the nice things that bisexuals are? That's difficult - when people repeat the myth "Bisexuals are Indecisive" they mean "Bisexuals are more indecisive than other people".
We could counter that by saying "Bisexuals are decisive", but we don't think that we're get described as "being tall". Some bisexuals are confused about bisexuality but far more people who aren't bi have confusing beliefs about bisexuality.
In traditional dictionaries: So why then dismiss bisexuality as being about "only men and women" when the definitions of hetero- and homo- don't mention those?
And why don't the critics of the word also have a go at people using "heterosexual" or "homosexual" on the grounds of the words being In fact many people say there's more than two genders, but if two options are either "similar to me" or "different to me" then we think it's clear that "both" can refer to those two options rather than two perceived sexes.
For decades we've marched on Gay Pride, worked in gay bars, and we've been queer bashed for not being straight.And there's more colours besides that between red and blue, there's orange, yellow and green for starters!Some people get hung up on the 'bi' and protest that gender isn't binary.We think this is rather silly - it's a bit like saying that lesbians or straight men are attracted to all women, or straight women and gay men are attracted to all men. You don't have to be equally attracted to red-heads and brunettes to be attracted to both, and preferring lettuce to liver doesn't make you a vegetarian, so why do some people insist that "true" bisexuals are exactly and equally attracted to men and women?We suspect it's to keep the numbers of bisexuals down, or to excuse themselves from identifying as bi.
They claim that identifying as bisexual is tantamount to saying trans* people don't exist, or that you're not attracted to them, or that you're only into masculine men and feminine women.